Sex Talk: 10 little, but wonderful sex tricks.**Waring** "This is X-rated"

Keep your panties on Back in secondary school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you were on to something. It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric. You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.”

Bring matters to a head

There is a subtle adjustment you can make that can increase your chances of having an orgasm: the coital alignment technique, or CAT.

Have your partner move his entire body up about two inches.

Your partner’s pubic bone will rest on top of yours so that the base of his member presses on your clit.

This position provides continuous stimulation of your clitoris during inter-course, increasing your chances of having an orgasm.

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Get confident with perfect posture: Push your shoulders back and stand up straight. Whisper in his ear a play-by-play of exactly what it is you plan to do to him tonight. Loosen up — extend your arms high, bend over, try a split — within his view, of course. Tell him about your hot dream. Rest your hand on his inner thigh under the table.

Change the context

Some women are nervous to ask for what they want during sex because they feel it sounds too demanding.

Try broaching the subject in a different setting where you can express your desires in a more relaxed way.

Cuddle up to him while watching a sexy scene on TV and whisper, ‘I hope we’ll try that tonight.’

He’ll be receptive to your feed-back, no matter when you offer it.

Reach out and touch each other

A full-body massage helps stimulate the seven energy centres throughout your body, so you’re aroused from head to toe.

Start massaging your partner’s hands and wrists. Then move up the arms and shoulders until you reach the chest.

Next, starting from the feet and ankles, work your way up the legs and thighs until you reach the belly.

This sequence helps awaken his sexual energy.

When you’re done massaging him, have him do the same for you — this puts your energies in tune and helps create a sense of union, not to mention feels pretty damn good.

Light up with pleasure

Turn off the lights, take a flashlight, and guide the glow to areas of your body that you want him to lick or rub.

Start with your neck, ears, nipples — go wherever you want him to explore.

Even if it’s a nonsexual area like your back, he has to pay attention to that area until you stop shining the flashlight on it.

The fantasy encounter

Set aside 30 minutes of uninterrupted time on Sunday (finding this time may be the hardest part of the program, but trust us, it’s worth it) in a relaxed setting — perhaps in the bedroom after the children are asleep.

Wearing loose-fitting but attractive clothing, sit down together and share your sexual fantasies.

Let your imaginations roam free.

The caveat: Don’t touch, just talk.

Start sleeping in the nude

If you’re usually a head-to-toe night-dress woman (or man), take it in small steps: a tank and shorts, then just a tee, and so on until you’re completely nude.

Once you get over the nakedness of it, the feeling of having nothing on is actually powerful and potent — and may even lead to sexier dreams, not to mention a more tantalizing night time cuddle...or more.

Why not try standing up?

Almost nothing makes you feel as overwhelmed by lust as a quickie against a wall. Pick a moment (don’t tell him) and pounce.

Give him a hot, wet kiss, rub your body against his and say, ‘How about right here?’ If his reaction doesn’t make you feel like a sex symbol, nothing will.

Take it slow

“Peaking,” a technique in which you assume a slower-than-average pace during intercourse, can easily wind you both up for an ecstatic ending.

A constant, fast pace will dull your senses, but a slower rhythm will give your body time to adjust and allow the tension to eventually build up to even greater heights.

So try consciously moving as if in slow motion and see if it doesn’t bring both of you to an amazing simultaneous finish.

Use your eyes

Both men and women are stimulated by erotic visuals.

Try keeping the lights on and your eyes open (this also aids communication, as you can see what pleases your partner).

Making love in front of mirrors is a variation on the same theme. The effort pays off.

Once you begin to appreciate foreplay as an integral part of your life together, sexual satisfaction will always be just one short step away.

NatM. Reporter