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Keep your panties on Back in secondary school, you probably had rules for how far you’d go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you were on to something. It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric. You’re building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it’ll be that much more explosive and exciting.”

Bring matters to a head

There is a subtle adjustment you can make that can increase your chances of having an orgasm: the coital alignment technique, or CAT.

Have your partner move his entire body up about two inches.

Your partner’s pubic bone will rest on top of yours so that the base of his member presses on your clit.

This position provides continuous stimulation of your clitoris during inter-course, increasing your chances of having an orgasm.

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Get confident with perfect posture: Push your shoulders back and stand up straight. Whisper in his ear a play-by-play of exactly what it is you plan to do to him tonight. Loosen up — extend your arms high, bend over, try a split — within his view, of course. Tell him about your hot dream. Rest your hand on his inner thigh under the table.

Change the context

Some women are nervous to ask for what they want during sex because they feel it sounds too demanding.

Try broaching the subject in a different setting where you can express your desires in a more relaxed way.

Cuddle up to him while watching a sexy scene on TV and whisper, ‘I hope we’ll try that tonight.’

He’ll be receptive to your feed-back, no matter when you offer it.

Reach out and touch each other

A full-body massage helps stimulate the seven energy centres throughout your body, so you’re aroused from head to toe.

Start massaging your partner’s hands and wrists. Then move up the arms and shoulders until you reach the chest.

Next, starting from the feet and ankles, work your way up the legs and thighs until you reach the belly.

This sequence helps awaken his sexual energy.

When you’re done massaging him, have him do the same for you — this puts your energies in tune and helps create a sense of union, not to mention feels pretty damn good.

Light up with pleasure

Turn off the lights, take a flashlight, and guide the glow to areas of your body that you want him to lick or rub.

Start with your neck, ears, nipples — go wherever you want him to explore.

Even if it’s a nonsexual area like your back, he has to pay attention to that area until you stop shining the flashlight on it.

The fantasy encounter

Set aside 30 minutes of uninterrupted time on Sunday (finding this time may be the hardest part of the program, but trust us, it’s worth it) in a relaxed setting — perhaps in the bedroom after the children are asleep.

Wearing loose-fitting but attractive clothing, sit down together and share your sexual fantasies.

Let your imaginations roam free.

The caveat: Don’t touch, just talk.

Start sleeping in the nude

If you’re usually a head-to-toe night-dress woman (or man), take it in small steps: a tank and shorts, then just a tee, and so on until you’re completely nude.

Once you get over the nakedness of it, the feeling of having nothing on is actually powerful and potent — and may even lead to sexier dreams, not to mention a more tantalizing night time cuddle...or more.

Why not try standing up?

Almost nothing makes you feel as overwhelmed by lust as a quickie against a wall. Pick a moment (don’t tell him) and pounce.

Give him a hot, wet kiss, rub your body against his and say, ‘How about right here?’ If his reaction doesn’t make you feel like a sex symbol, nothing will.

Take it slow

“Peaking,” a technique in which you assume a slower-than-average pace during intercourse, can easily wind you both up for an ecstatic ending.

A constant, fast pace will dull your senses, but a slower rhythm will give your body time to adjust and allow the tension to eventually build up to even greater heights.

So try consciously moving as if in slow motion and see if it doesn’t bring both of you to an amazing simultaneous finish.

Use your eyes

Both men and women are stimulated by erotic visuals.

Try keeping the lights on and your eyes open (this also aids communication, as you can see what pleases your partner).

Making love in front of mirrors is a variation on the same theme. The effort pays off.

Once you begin to appreciate foreplay as an integral part of your life together, sexual satisfaction will always be just one short step away.

NatM. Reporter

Woman Bites Off Neighbour’s Nose Over Suspicions Of Snatching Her Husband

A housewife, Mrs. Ruka Amoha who claimed her husband has denied her sexual intercourse for some months decided to vent her anger on her neighbour, Mrs. Yemi Adelani.

Ruka, who alleged that her husband, Wasiu Amoha, starved her of sex because he was enjoying an amorous affair with her neighbour, descended on Yemi and bit off her nose, during an argument at their apartment.

“I cannot accept a situation where Yemi is enjoying her husband and mine at the same time thus denying me the opportunity to enjoy my husband,” said Ruka, a mother of three.

The incident happened at 13, Adealu Street, Dopemu, Lagos, southwest Nigeria.

Doctors at the Lagos General Hospital, Orile Agege confirmed that Yemi’s nose was  badly damaged  and she needs plastic surgery to survive.

The victim, a mother of four kids, confirmed that Ruka accused her of sleeping with her husband.

She denied ever having any affair with Wasiu, Ruka’s husband, who rented a room in the same building Ruka and her husband where reside.

Yemi said that the difference between them is that she has been living peacefully with her husband unlike Ruka who was always fighting her husband and neighbours.

Wasiu, the man at the centre of the storm confirmed to P.M.NEWS that he has been having constant quarrel with his wife, Ruka because of her behaviour.

When P.M.NEWS asked him why he was not having sex with his wife, he said it was because of her constant quarrel with him and he had no peace of mind to even think about sex.

On the day of the incident last week, Ruka reportedly ambushed Yemi and grabbed her nose and bit it off.

She bled profusely and was rushed to the hospital where she was treated. But she is still expected to undergo plastic surgery on the nose.

The police from Oke Odo Police Division later arrested Ruka. After interrogation, she was  charged before an Ikeja Magistrate’s Court sitting at Abule Egba  for assault and inflicting injury on Yemi.

The offence, the police said, is contrary to Section 244 of the Criminal Code, Laws of Lagos State of Nigeria, 2011.

She pleaded not guilty.

The presiding Magistrate, Mr. O.A. Komolafe granted her bail in the sum of N50,000 with two sureties in like sum; one of them must be her  blood relation.

The matter was adjourned till 24 August, 2012 for mention.

She was remanded in prison custody at Kirikiri pending when she will fulfil  her bail condition.

By Cyriacus Izuekwe of pmnews

Niger Delta Militants Swap Weapons for Welding

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Children drift past an oil pipeline head in the Niger delta, where militants had managed to cripple output

Request Igbikis was used to hiding behind a mask. He knew a little about oil pipelines, too – how to blow them up.

“Vandalising, killing people, kidnapping people,” said Mr Igbikis, 28, describing his life as a former member of the Niger Delta Strike Force, one of the rebel groups whose attacks in the creeks of southern Nigeria crippled the country’s oil industry.

What he was not familiar with was how to build a pipeline, which is why he was standing in a dark warehouse with a protective mask on his head and a welding torch in his hand, sending a fountain of sparks into the air. Before long the two pieces of four-inch pipe in front of him were neatly joined together.

“I am learning,” he said, unsmiling but proud. “I want to be a somebody.”

This month, Mr Igbikis and 39 fellow former militants will graduate from their nine-month welding course in Port Harcourt, the delta’s biggest city, joining thousands of other ex-rebels who have graduated from education or training projects in Nigeria and abroad. They are all beneficiaries of$405m-a-year amnesty programme that has become an unlikely success story for Nigeria’s government.

When it was started by the late president Umaru Yar’Adua in June 2009, the rebels’ raids on oil installations and personnel had halved oil production from more than 2m barrels a day to as low as 800,000 bd in January 2009, according to the government’s figures. Few local activists believed the amnesty policy would work.

But within little over a year, more than 26,358 “armed agitators” had handed over their weapons in exchange for a 65,000 naira ($400) monthly payment and a promise of training. The attacks lessened and then stopped. Today oil output is between 2.4m and 2.6m bpd, the government says.

Although there are still concerns about the cost of the amnesty, the long-term stability of the delta and the massive increase in oil theft or “bunkering” that has accompanied the drop in violence, many early critics of the programme admit they were mistaken.

“I thought the amnesty was poorly planned but I’ve had to eat humble pie,” said Inemo Samiama, executive director the Stakeholder Democracy Network, a civil society group. “Militant activities have practically ceased and normal life has returned.”

Keeping the rebel leaders happy was crucial to the programme’s success. It helped that President Goodluck Jonathan, who played an important role in negotiations with the militants while vice-president, was from the delta region. After initially fearing persecution, militant bosses such as Government Ekpumopolo, known as Tompolo, were comfortably housed in the capital Abuja and then controversially taking part in lucrative oil-related contracts.

For foot soldiers such as Mr Igbikis, who said he was driven to militancy by joblessness and a sense of injustice, the amnesty terms were also generous. The $400-a-month stipend is nearly four times the minimum wage of local government workers. Together with the promise of training, it was enough to encourage most militants – and many non-militants, some allege – to renounce violence and join demobilisation camps.

The government says that about 11,500 of those granted amnesty have been placed in formal education or given training since 2009. Nearly half of those took courses abroad, mainly learning skills such as welding, electrical installations, mechanics, marine diving and entrepreneurship. A further 600 non-militants were awarded scholarships to overseas universities as part of the programme.

But the programme’s success is generating its own problems. Although it is now closed thousands of people are still clamouring to join, including former militants who initially refused to sign up, fearing stigmatisation. Growing resentment among unemployed young delta residents who did not take up arms is another problem.

“There was always a risk of the amnesty being seen to celebrate violence,” said Lawrence Pepple, technical adviser on reintegration for the Niger Delta Amnesty Programme. “But we also have to give these former militants opportunities.”

Paying and educating the former militants is expensive, costing 66bn naira – $405m – in 2012 alone, and well over $1bn since the programme started. While this represents less than three days’ revenue from the increased oil production, it has nonetheless drawn criticism from politicians outside the delta, who feel the cost of appeasing and pacifying the region is too great. Added to this is the suspected involvement of former militants in bunkering, which saw up to 400,000m bd stolen in March, suggesting that the resulting loss to the treasury and oil companies may exceed $1bn a month.

Detractors also say the programme has done little to address the underlying issues that caused the militancy. Despite its oil riches, the delta remains poor, underdeveloped and polluted.

Mr Pepple acknowledges the continued challenges, but said the amnesty programme was never supposed to be “a panacea for all the problems . . . Our mandate was the cessation of hostilities, and it has achieved that.”

Mr Pepple said the end date for payments to militants would depend on the “threat and needs of the region” but it was unlikely to extend past 2015. That means new jobs and opportunities will have to be created to keep the former militants as well as other jobless youths satisfied.

At present this is not happening, which could have serious consequences. Belema Papamie, an adviser to the president from the Ijaw Youth Council, an influential body representing the delta’s largest ethnic group, said the various militant groups held back some of their weapons when accepting amnesty and may have acquired more.

“You can traumatise a man by training him and then not giving him a chance at a job,” said Mr Papamie.

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